[personal profile] pywaket

 Very, very tired now, having only slept 3 hours in the last 48,  and have taken sedatives, so this is a quick update.

First:  Thanks to all of you for your kind words and support, especially to Lyo and Imalion who drove me to the court and stood by me when I needed it.

Here's a short rundown of what happended:  I requested no contact at all and explained my reasons why, which the judge considered reasonable.  This didn't take but a minute or so.  The crazy ex then spent 10 minutes arguing with the judge about how she's entitled to contact me because anything else would be a violation of her freedom of speech, which is a very bizarre interpretation of that law, to say the least.  Judge wasn't buying it, and  granted the restraining order.  The next bit is a blur to me.  I was starting to talk to the bailiff about how enforcement would take place when she violated it (do I call 911, or the court, or what?.).  As I was doing this, she apparently asked the judge if she could violate the agreement right there in the courtroom, which she then did by coming over and tackling me as I was talking to the bailiff.  I assumed the most non-aggressive posture possible, while the 2 bailiffs pulled her off of me and put her in cuffs.    I was then lead from the courtroom by the first bailiff, who sent me down to wait for paperwork for the restraining order.  So basically, she committed 4 crimes in the courtroom, in front of at least 2 bailiffs,  20 random witnesses, several attorneys and clerks, *and the judge who just filed the order* 

She's currently still at the courthouse, and will be spending the weekend in the jail at the Somerville police station, and will be arraigned on Monday on 1 count each of Assault, Battery, Violation of a restraining order, and Contempt of Court.  I  was told it wasn't necessary for me to wait, once they gave me to paperwork to prove I have a restraining order.  I don't have to be at the arraignment and probably won't go, though I will have to go to the trial as the plaintiff for the 4 charges.;

All in all, if was pretty damn bizarre.  OTOH, it sorta streamlines the process: I no longer have to go back to file charges when she inevitably violated the order, since she did me the favor of doing it right then and there in front of 30 or so witnesses. 

I'm  both astonished and not.  It was, as I said, bizarre.   However, the last 2 years of our marriage had her behaving pretty insanely, so I should be, at least to some extent, used to it and expecting it.  I guess the last couple of years of distance, where she wasn't physically in my face all the time have dimmed the memories somewhat.  Well, that's been "fixed".  She's at least as crazy as I remember, if not worse.

Lyo, Imalion, feel free to add to this anything you remember that I missed.  And thanks again for being there.  I couldn't have done it without you.

I'm barely coherent now, so time to try to sleep.  Goodnight, all.
 

indeed

Date: 2010-11-12 04:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] imalion.livejournal.com
much with the crazy.

Re: indeed

Date: 2010-11-12 05:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lyonesse.livejournal.com
a-yup.

and de nada, babe. hope you get good sleep!

Date: 2010-11-12 05:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] suzannemercury.livejournal.com
O.o Holy. Shit. I'm... Wow. Wow.

I mean, there is batshit and there is batshit, but this is BATSHIT.

On the bright side, she made things a lot easier for you. I mean it sort of solves the issue of how-should-I-report-violations, etc.

I would like to bake you and Lyo a nice lemon pie. Let me know when you are awake. Meanwhile, SLEEP deeply and peacefully.

Date: 2010-11-12 07:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] browngirl.livejournal.com
Holy shit.

I'm sorry she did that, because that sounds awful to endure, but I share your rueful gladness that she did you the favor of demonstrating right in the courtroom exactly why you need this restraining order.

*hugs you gently, if you want it*

Date: 2010-11-12 10:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] contradictacat.livejournal.com
Not much to say, but holy crap- much sympathy and hugs.

Date: 2010-11-13 12:07 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com
WOAH!!!!! That is just surreal. She couldn't possibly have done herself in so completely.

But as you say, she has removed the burden of proof from you by fulfilling it herself. She has shown herself to be a danger and a threat. May justice be served.

And may you get some good sleep!

Date: 2010-11-15 01:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] klingonlandlady.livejournal.com
exactly! so totally nuts as to be self-damning; thats pretty convenient.

Date: 2010-11-13 03:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jadia.livejournal.com
Wow. I'm sorry you've had to put up with this for so long and hopefully you won't have to anymore. Good luck.

Date: 2010-11-13 04:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] weegoddess.livejournal.com
::boggles::

She really did you a favor, didn't she? Not that she likely saw it that way.

But day-um. So much crazy.

I'm really glad that you got through that so well and that you had good people to stand by you.

Date: 2010-11-13 07:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bluepapercup.livejournal.com
Holy Crap. That sounds like a surreal and trying experience, I am very glad you had support during it and will continue to have support afterward.

I hope this is the end of an era, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this much crazy for so long.

Date: 2010-11-13 11:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] surrealestate.livejournal.com
Well, I know I'd rather have it happen that way than look up one evening to see her face pressed against the back window. :)

Date: 2010-11-14 07:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] whitebird.livejournal.com
... Dang, but her actions really take crazy to a completely new level.

Very sorry you had to deal with all of this, but from your description it doesn't sound like you were physically hurt, so that's at least a good thing.

And I suppose you should appreciate her efficiency.

Date: 2010-11-14 11:27 pm (UTC)
gingicat: drawing of me based on wedding photo (Andromeda - WTF?)
From: [personal profile] gingicat
Whoa. Holy crap.

Hopefully everything will go smoothly from here on... Sheesh.

Date: 2010-11-15 02:28 am (UTC)
tb: (eruption)
From: [personal profile] tb
I keep looking for something to say other than "wow," but anything I'd think to say has already been covered. As you said, this is both astonishing and unsurprising all at the same time. I can totally believe she did that.
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